by Liz Seccuro
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Description: In September 2005, Liz Seccuro's world turned upside down when she received an apology letter from the man who had raped her twenty-two years earlier. The rape, which occurred when she was a seventeen-year-old freshman at the University of Virginia, was reported to the campus police, but their inquiry led nowhere. The man accused of raping her left the university soon after and Seccuro tried to put the incident behind her, but like all survivors of trauma, the memory was never far from the surface. The letter brought it all back. Seccuro bravely began an e-mail correspondence with her rapist to try to understand what happened, and why. As the correspondence continued, Seccuro found the courage to do what should have been done all those years earlier—prosecute him. She began appearing on national television and radio to talk about the case. Several crime dramas and a John Grisham novel, The Associate, were based on her experience. She had found a way to end a terrible story, but once judicial proceedings began she found that what she thought occurred at that UVA frat party was only the tip of the iceberg. She now has reason to think there were two other assailants, neither of whom has been brought to justice. Liz Seccuro's inspiring, unflinching memoir is about experiencing terrible trauma—and the power of justice to heal.
The Good Stuff
- Brutally honest and powerful
- Books like this one help give power back to those victims that have had their power forcefully taken from them
- Refreshing to hear of helpful police officers dealing with rape victims/survivors
- Admire the authors strength of character
- Absolutely disgusted by the lack of support from the University and its archaic need to protect its reputation (Makes me wonder what Humber & Guelph-Humber would do in a similar situation)
- Also truly disgusted by the legal system (Not just U.S. - Canada is no better) that treats rapists so leniently. In my opinion rapists are rapid dogs and should be put down. They are sick and cannot be cured -- sorry if that is brutal, but it is something I truly believe
- See 1st quote - helped me understand the abandonment of friends/family when they learned about Jake's disability and my postpartum depression - doesn't make it hurt less, but it helped me to understand and forgive
- I think this will inspire many more women to speak out about their own rapes and to also inspire more women to go into the law and/or education to help bring change to these archaic institutions
- Actually has some of the court transcripts in it -- trust me you will shake your head at the absurdity of it all
- I am now truly terrified of sending my kids to University
- It really is disturbing to see how society spends so much time/money on defending the rapist and blaming the victim -- really what the hell has the length of a skirt have to do with rape
- I won't lie, its a tough book to read at times, often felt sick to my stomach, sad and angry
"Perhaps some people feel that tragedy is contagious and to see it happen to a friend is to acknowledge the possibility of its entering one's own life. Regardless, it hurt deeply to lose friends I had considered a part of my support system."
"I think in recovery they don't really teach you about how your admission now causes turbulence in the victim/survivor's life. From my discussions with people in the program, I hear taht addicts on your "step" just want forgiveness, neatly tied up in a bow."
"Does it really give you a 'story' following a rape victim home? With her child in the car? Have some grace and class and get off my property."
What I Learned
- How horribly frequent rape still occurs at Universities and how it is still suppressed by these Universities in order to protect their reputations
- That many of these institutions are more willing to cite a student for underage alcohol than rape
- Everybody! It does have brutal descriptions of the rape, so I would suggest not for younger than 14 - but if you do have a younger child I suggest talking over with them about the book.
I won this from GoodReads and wasn't required to review it