by Rebecca Eckler
Doubleday Canada (Random House)
Description: Rebecca Eckler shows women everywhere that while they're busy offering not-so-casual advice and reprimands to the men in their life, they've lost sight of an important fact: they're not dating a boyfriend, they're raising a boyfriend.
He wandered away from the checkout, leaving her to cope with an overflowing shopping car. He dashed in front of her to cross a busy intersection without so much as a backwards glance. He forgot — forgot! — to meet her at the airport after a trip. And then an inescapable truth settled in: Rebecca Eckler already had a six-year-old daughter, so what was she doing with a boyfriend who was even worse behaved? There were only two options. Dump the sucker and concentrate on raising her child. Or raise her boyfriend, too.
From making introductions, to offering compliments, to saying you're sorry, boyfriends need to be raised with the same lessons we use on our kids. As Rebecca writes, "If I can raise a child — a smart, kind and polite one — surely I can raise a boyfriend, too."
The Good Stuff
- Extremely funny at times
- Self deprecating author, which regular readers of this blog will know I love
- Before requesting the book for review I had read tons of negative reviews on this book and I think alot of people missed the point about this -- humour -- If you don't have one -- get one!
- Very wise commentary on the fact that we should stop complaining about some of our men's less than stellar qualities and do something about them (and vise a versa -- us girls also have our own faults to look at) And also that we shouldn't settle with bad behaviour
- The obvious love for her daughter. BTW, Rebecca I got a polite and well trained 9 yr old boy for your daughter. I also have a charming 2.5 yr old boy, but he is too much of a tramp like his daddy was and will not be good marriage material until at least 35.
- Love the advise from "Freud", the man has some very wise advise and some very valid points
- The Winnie the Pooh quotes are cute
- Like the clever tactics on Page 80 for shopping with a man
- Chapter 24 -- also my pet peeve -- but not just men - always look behind you before you let the door close -- just hold it open. It only takes a freakin second!!!!
- Loved the part about her snoring brother -- I have felt like smothering my man when he snores too
- A little mean spirited at times -- but hey it sounds like many of them deserve it
- I know its a small thing, but I really got irritated by the constant mention of "She does my Brazilian Bikini waxes. She knows, Hears, and Sees it All". All you have to do is mention that once and than in every other chapter just write "Wise Words from Helena". I'm a women, I got it the first time LOL!
- I have a bad feeling this one is going to get slammed a lot --but guys come on it's funny -- she is not man bashing
"Okay, I'll admit I was 5 percent asking because I can be a royal nag and jealous bitch. But 95 percent of me was asking because I was genuinely interested in what he got up to."
"Actually, I have pretty good relationships with my exes, in the sense that because I'm no longer with them, they don't annoy me so much.)
"And I'm her role model. I just know by the time she starts dating, the man in my life will be consistently achieving at or above the expected level. I expect no less for me, and certainly no less for my daughter."
What I Learned
- I've got a pretty good hubby, although he definitely could use some remedial courses. I guess I am a pretty lucky women
- That as a women I take the compromising thing a little too far
- Wow I am far too passive aggressive
- I don't think I am going out on a limb when I say, most men will not enjoy this
- Unfortunately, I don't think this book will be for everybody. I can see quite a bit of negative press from those who don't get her sense of humour or some of her very valid points.
I received this from Random House in exchange for an honest review. BTW, I have read tons of stuff from Rebecca. She is tremendously funny - I recommend that you pick up Wiped by her